I know what you’re thinking and no, I am not one of those cranky girls that hates Valentine’s Day.
But I have got this funny taste in my mouth as I am sitting here drinking tea and watching this couple making out like it’s their job.
And sometimes a girl can just feel so alone in this world.
Being single hasn’t really bothered me in the past but I have been feeling kind of weird about it lately.
I have suddenly experienced this avalanche of new relationships in my circle of friends and I am suddenly SUPER aware of just how freaking single I am.
And God has me in a weird place right now where I literally don’t have one single man in my life.
Seriously.
Not even ONE.
So at this point I don’t even have a smidgeon of hope to hang my relationship hat on.
My church is small and I’m too busy to tackle getting involved in a young adults group at this point.
(Plus the atmosphere of “single groups” has kind of always bothered me anyway. I just hate that everyone looks like they’re at the pet store picking out their first puppy.)
But I want you to know that BEING SINGLE IS NOT BAD.
It’s just that once in awhile this feeling will sneak up into my throat and I choke on this whisper of longing that sounds something like:
“God, I want THAT.”
I don’t know but maybe you feel the same way.
So for my sisters who are single and struggling this Valentine’s Day here are 3 things that will help you get through the day.
- Give thanks in ALL things.
God tells us to give thanks in all things and thanksgiving is how we are supposed to enter into His presence. Giving thanks brings healing and joy. So even if you don’t feel like it, give thanks in this season. Give thanks for this season. You’ll be surprised at the peace, joy and contentment that flow from it.
- Get over yourself
Sometimes we get so wrapped up in ourselves that we don’t actually see what’s going on. Instead of focusing on how single and alone you are find fellow sisters to bless. Find a way to make someone else less lonely. Make someone’s day. And make laughter your chocolate.
- Don’t forget da TRUTH
The world tries to fill our heads with so many lies but these are the timeless truths we can cling to.
- God can and will bind your broken heart-Luke 4:18
You may feel so messed up and scarred that you wonder who would want you. I’ll tell you who: Jesus. He wants you. He wants your broken beat up heart. Don’t underestimate your Jesus. If Mike Wazowski can put together a shredded door than your God can certainly piece together a shattered heart.
- You are not alone-Isaiah 41:10
When you’re feeling left out and lonely remember that you’re not alone and God certainly hasn’t left you out in the cold. This may be a season where your friends are all busy and your family is far away but God is right there with you. Turn to Him and let Him pull you in close. Sometimes it takes having nothing but God to realize He is all you need. And honestly, it’s rare that community and friendship are totally out of reach.
- God’s got a plan for you-Jeremiah 29:11
God has got an amazing plan for your life. And guess what? It’s a GOOD plan. God wants you to live a full life. It may not make sense at the moment but trust in God’s love for you and know that He really wants the best for you. He’s got His own special plots twists just waiting for you as your story unfolds.
- You are BEAUTIFUL-Song of Solomon 4:7, 6:10 Psalm 139:14
Though some days it’s so hard to believe, you are beautiful. Have you ever looked at a sunset and just been amazed by all that beauty and somehow you feel like you have seen a snatch of God’s awesomeness? Well how much more beautiful are you? You, who were made in GODS IMAGE. You, who are a clear reflection of all He is. You are beautiful. And God looks at you the way you look at His sunsets.
- You are SO LOVED-Zephaniah 3:17, Isaiah 55, Psalms 73, John 3:16…
I don’t care where you’re at or what you’ve done. THIS is the core of our Christian life. That GOD so loved this world that He sent His only Son to die for our sins. We don’t have to try and work our way up to God, He came down to carry us up to Him. I just want you to know beyond anything that you are so crazy loved by such a good God.
And it’s one thing for me to tell you all this but it’s another to hear it in your heart. And over this Winter Break when my heart was wrecked by a boy and I came crying to God with the pieces, surrendering all my dreams and desires, I heard Him whisper:
“You know I love you right? You are beautiful and I’ve got awesome plans for you. It’s going to be okay.”
And He is whispering that same message to us all.
That you’re beautiful.
That He loves you.
And that He has got His own awesome plan for you.
So when you’re heart beats with that longing and you hear yourself saying:
“I want THAT”
Just remember that THAT, that’s not how YOUR story goes.
