I spent the majority of my life thus far single. I remember how triggering Valentines day was for me and how I wanted nothing more than a man and a romantic night out. Thankfully I had great friends and great role models showing me and inspiring me how to celebrate Valentines day on my own or with friends. So here are 14 ideas for you that I’ve done myself over the years. Hopefully these give you inspiration for Valentines day this year if you find yourself single.

• Grab Takeout from your favorite place and schedule a night of self-care and good movies. Do the face masks, the self-tanning, waxing, all the things you put off making time for.
• Light candles and take a bubble bath. Watch Netflix on your laptop or read a book while you’re in there.
• Schedule a lesson in something new you want to learn. It could be a cooking class, pottery, glass blowing, horse backing riding or guitar lessons. It’s a great day to go do that thing you’ve always wanted to.
• Get dressed up with your best girlfriends. Go ALL out. You don’t need a partner to buy sexy underwear. Put on the lashes and the makeup and buy a dress that makes you feel gorgeous and spend a night out on the town enjoying fancy drinks and expensive desserts and laughing hard over everything.
• Book yourself a weekend getaway (preferably with a hot tub). Enjoy time away from home. Sometimes a change of scenery makes it easier to relax. Read, hike, sleep, watch TV, and enjoy the local restaurants and attractions.
• Treat yourself to a spa day. Pay for an actual massage and go all out. Your body will feel refreshed and you will feel like a new person.
• Get your nails done or your hair done or anything that helps you feel beautiful, put together and confident.
• Take a hike and do some self-reflection. What has been great about this year so far? Where do you want to go? Who do you want to become? What are your career goals? What qualities do you want to cultivate in yourself? What are your dreams? What are some fun things you can plan for this year?
• Write a letter of encouragement and love to yourself. Tell yourself all the things you love about yourself and encouragement for all you’ve been through and all you’re doing. Make it a bit mushy. Write yourself the love letter you long for from a SO.
• Invite a bunch of girlfriends over to drink wine and watch some rom coms. Have fun, laugh, and give each other valentines if you want.
• Try a new recipe that you’ve really been wanting to make and cook yourself a delicious dinner.
• Go to a winery and do the taste testing. Learn what kind of wine you like and how to pair the best foods with it. If you find one you like buy a bottle or two.
• You know the mushy things couples usually do? Like the two for one date night specials or horse carriage rides or ice skating? Whatever you dream of doing with a partner one day, stop waiting and just take your bestie instead!
• Volunteer and show love to someone else. People in nursing homes love receiving roses and little valentines. Write letters to our men and women serving in the military. Offer to babysit for a couple so they can go out and enjoy a date night for once. Spend the day helping out at an animal rescue or a homeless shelter or any organization in your local community you feel passionate about. It’s hard to feel sorry for ourselves when we are loving and giving to others in need.

Valentines Day is a day of love and while it’s become centered around couples, you don’t have to be in a relationship to give and receive love. I hope you also know a relationship is not what makes you worthy. Band together with other singles and instead of dodging all the couples on your newsfeed have fun and make some memories.

 

Love ya babes